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I Forget You’re Still a Girl

A little while ago, Sir and I were away for a long weekend with a good friend. On the last day together, he said something that came across a little harsh. It bothered me when he said it, but not enough to say anything at the time. After a small emotional breakdown on the way home, I decided I should say something to him so I didn’t have any residual harsh feelings clouding a wonderful weekend.

I sent him an email, explaining how I felt about what he had said. First and foremost, he was very apologetic and made me feel completely better about the whole situation. It was simply a lack of communication and words spoken a little brusquely. No big deal, all better.

However, one of the things he said to me in his apology was, “I have to admit, sometimes you talk about sex much like a man would, so it’s easy to forget you’re still a girl.” Now I am quite certain he wasn’t commenting on my femininity. Trust me, he “KNOWS” I am a girl. But the comment made me think. What exactly does it mean to talk about sex like a man?

Well for starters, I talk about sex. I think that is really the heart of the explanation. As a girl, I am “supposed” to be shy, demure, mind my manners, never swear, and for heaven’s sake, NEVER discuss (lowered whisper voice) sex.

Well, I am NOT that girl. Don’t get me wrong, I am not some bawdy, filthy mouthed roughneck, at least most of the time. I am just a girl who calls it like she sees it and isn’t embarrassed by knowing people have sex, or having other know that I have sex. Because, I DO, as often as possible. I LOVE having sex. I LOVE fucking. I like it vanilla, kinky, forwards, backwards and upside down. I love toys, tongues, crops, oils, creams and invited guests. I have tortured my children on several occasions by sharing information about sex that I thought they should know. They didn’t always agree.

I actually find the idea of talking about sex like a man to be quite funny. In the conversations that I have had with men, it doesn’t seem that men actually talk about sex all that much. Buddies hang out, they drink a beer, and talk about a lot of things. But generally not sex. Women, however, talk about sex ALL THE TIME. My friends and I have had some of the raunchiest discussion I have ever heard. It makes me blush just thinking about them.

Well, those are just a few of my thoughts on how men and women talk about sex. Now, so I don’t offend anyone, I have made some large blanket statements. I am completely aware that there are MANY different people, experiences and ideas in this world. I just hope I gave you something interesting to think about. Maybe a mind-fuck, of sorts. I Love those too. 🙂

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6 thoughts on “I Forget You’re Still a Girl

  1. subspeak on said:

    I’ve never understood why sex is such a taboo topic when it is so fun. I think if it doesn’t get talked about then people might lose out on a whole lot of fun from lack of knowledge or feeling that the act of it is wrong. I am really lucky that I come from a family that is very open about everything and so sex talk is as natural to me as commenting on the weather. I have shocked many a person with my openness but at the end of the day, it feels good so I’m so going to brag 🙂

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  2. brattopia on said:

    I am holding up many thumbs to this post! (hm, multiplying thumbs I must have ;)) But seriously, so well said! 🙂 Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!

    xx bratt

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