For Better or For Worse
As many of you know, or have surmised, Professor and I hit a really rough patch in our relationship. Actually, it was bad enough that for the first time in 20+ years of marriage, the “D” word was thrown out. It wasn’t like any plans for permanent separation were made, but we had never even said the word before, because we never had these kind of problems. I am not going into details, and it wasn’t anything life altering, but it was devastating to us.
Because we took vows that said “for better or for worse”, we knew we had to do all the work necessary to fix us again. We have talked and talked and talked and talked. We have also cried and yelled and slept in separate beds and I even ran away from home for a short amount of time. But we kept coming back and working.
Recently, we had quite a big breakthrough. There part of our core problem that we hadn’t found words for, until Professor finally and eloquently found the words. He described it like this: He had always respected me and my right to say “no” to anything and everything, especially our sexual relationship. He also realized that he had taken my right to say “no” and twisted it into given me the only power to say “yes”. He would sit and patiently wait until I initiated, even when he had desires of his own. That left me feeling unwanted, undesirable and hurting. I didn’t want to be the only one “driving the bus”. He has finally realized that HE has the right to say “yes” AND I still have the right to say “no”. He is now exercising his right to say “YES” like he never has before and it is quite AMAZING. If you have been following me for a while, you should realize that I very rarely exercise my right to say “no”. J
The other thing we have realized is that no matter how you define BDSM, D/s, M/s, ABC…LMNOP…or XYZ, I guarantee that we WON’T fit your definition, and we are VERY GOOD with that fact. We have no desire to try and fit into anyone’s mold or model of how things are “supposed” to be done. If you haven’t noticed, I and We are VERY SEXUAL and Kinky. Some of that falls into the BDSM lifestyle, but we aren’t looking for a lifestyle, we are looking for a LIFE (Thanks Rita). So, from this minute forward, we are going to be working on US and OUR wants, needs and desires, without labels, guidelines, or outside definitions.
I am finally feeling like writing again, and I want to thank all of you who have continued to wait and follow me through this difficult time in our lives. I hope that I will be able to give you some more of the salacious, sensual and sexy stories that you have come to expect. Maybe I’ll even give you something unexpected. You will also be seeing more of Professor around here. He’s a fairly decent guy, so I think you will find him entertaining too. J
Now, move away from the computer and go Wildly Fuck Somebody!