Lots of Love
Polyamory is a hoax! There is no such thing! It’s not real!
Is this what you think? I did too, but not anymore.
From a very young age, in stories and fairy tales, we are taught that every person has one true love. Religion tells us that you must give your heart to only one person too. But the stories and the prophesiers are partially wrong. Just look around.
When we love, we open new accounts for each person, without having to withdraw from another account to do so. As a child, you have an account for your parents. More than likely, a separate account for each of them. Sometimes one account seems to carry a slightly lower balance than the other, but they are still completely separate currencies. Other family members have their own accounts, as do friends, none stealing from one to fill the other.
When we have children, they each have their own accounts too. When I gave birth to my son, I couldn’t imagine EVER loving someone like I loved him. When I became pregnant with my daughter, I actually feared that I wouldn’t love her like I did my first born. When she arrived, I quickly learned that was NOT the case. I loved that little girl with my whole heart too. But, how could that be when my heart already felt completely filled by my son? Easy, new account! I have always told my children that I don’t love them equally, I love them both uniquely. They don’t pull from the same account, so there is no competition for my affection.
Now, romantic love is different, right? My heart only belongs to one man, forever and always. This is true, and false. My life hostage for ever and ever more is my husband. He is the father to my children. The other half of my whole. The one I turn to with the best of news, and the worst. He is a forever pain in my ass, but I LOVE Him like no other. We were made for each other and nothing will ever change that.
However, I am completely in love with another man too. He makes me smile. He brings me such joy. He challenges me. He excites me and he drives me completely insane too. Most would say this is disloyal to my husband, and in the past I would have too, but why? This love hasn’t taken one thing away from my husband. He still owns me body and soul like all lifetime committed partners should. I have just been blessed to have had another account added to my bank that makes me happy and fulfills another part of my complete being.
If all this is true, then why is polyamory wrong? What are your thoughts? I’d love some constructive conversation on this subject.